The mirrors are a symbol of beauty and comfort, yet they are a reflection of the human condition.
They can also create a barrier of ignorance, fear and anxiety.
“They are not a reflection, they are not your face but an illusion of your face,” says Dr. Bimal Krishna of the Institute of Social Sciences, Lahore.
It’s all down to our perceptions and biases.
I’ve seen a mirror where the woman has a very large nose, she’s wearing a high neckline, a high collar, the back is full of hair, the upper lip is raised, and the hair is parted in the middle, so it looks like she has a big nose.
A mirror in the park The problem is that our eyes are often very small and they’re often not focused on a single object, even when looking at the mirror, Dr. Krishna says.
If you want to get a sense of a woman’s physical shape, you can’t even look at the person you’re talking to, she’ll look more like an object than a person, she won’t look human, she will look a mirror image of herself.
When we’re looking at a mirror, we are looking at ourselves, he says.
If we’re talking with someone, we look at ourselves and we don’t look at what they are doing, which makes it hard for us to be attracted to them.
What to do?
The only way to eliminate the ugly mirror is to change your perception, says Dr Krishna.
“Don’t see yourself in a mirror,” he says, “don’t look through the mirror.”
I’m not sure if it’s possible to do that, he adds, but it can help.
Dr. Krishna suggests looking at someone from a different angle, one that doesn’t show the person from a very distant distance.
That way, the viewer’s mind will be able to get used to seeing a person from the opposite perspective, Dr Krishna says, and they won’t see themselves in the mirror.
Instead, he recommends trying to think of yourself as someone else, to use your own eyes, nose, lips and hands, to see the reflection of yourself in the other person.
In other words, try to imagine yourself with the same body you would want to have, Dr Sharma says.
It will help if you have some positive reinforcement, he added.
“If you get a friend or a family member to look at you from the mirror and say, ‘You look so much better now, and I feel so much happier with myself, that you don’t have the same ugly reflection that you had before’,” Dr Sharma suggests.
So, are there ways you can change your mirror reflection?
Yes, Dr Gupta suggests.
“I think that it is important to try and take a positive attitude towards our reflection.
That means changing the way you view the world,” he said.
You can learn more about Dr Gupta’s research at www.joshuagharath.com.